So, I’ve been meaning to start a blog for a while now. My mind is a whirlwind of ideas and my heart is just brimming with passion and inspiration. There are so many plans I have; daydreams of advocacy and world change. I wanted to choose the perfect topic for my first blog post, create an outline for effectively elaborating on said topic, proofread twice or thrice, and then proudly publish my masterpiece. Nah, that ain’t happen! You know why? Because I’m a momma of a schoolager and a toddler, I work almost full time as a server, and I’m nine months pregnant. Doesn’t leave me a whole lot of time on my hands. So instead of publishing a well written, fourteen times proofread blog post about equality or abuse, imma go ahead and start this blog out with a little something real, about my life, that other moms can relate to.
You ever heard women say, “I’m not a normal mom, I’m a cool mom”? Well, I hope I don’t sound cliche, but that’s me right there. I’m not your typical momma. Neither me nor my fiance grew up in a wealthy, high class family. Neither my parents nor his attended college. We got to where we are today from hard work, street smarts, perseverance, and having big hearts. My man is a factory worker; he’s been at the company for almost a decade, and he’s worked his way up to a better wage because he works a position which normally requires three people and he’s willing to work sixty hour weeks when need be. As far as myself, I have an Associates degree in Human Services Management, but even though I worked my ass off in school I still can’t find a job in this field, because while I may have worked just about every job out there, I don’t have experience working in my field of study. I would love to volunteer at an organization to get some experience, but fitting that in between my job and taking care of my children…there are not enough hours in the day! I can’t seem to get my foot in the door and get a job where my true passion lies. But I believe it will happen for me down the road sometime. In the meantime, I serve at a local Bob Evans, working about 35 hours a week.
Also, me and my man are real old school. Going to the mall is a challenge for us because we don’t rock skinny jeans and chevron print scarves. And that new mustache trend- we be like “what the hell?!” We just have a more classic taste in clothing. As far as cars, we are Caddy lovers, and I’m talkin’ old-school-gangsta-long-and-sleek-square-back-end-with-the-pointy-lights Cadillacs. Even my six-year old says (in reference to the new style of Cadillac) “mom, that isn’t a Caddy. That’s just a car with the Cadillac symbol on it,” and shakes his head. Lol! All new cars look the same to me! I prefer a ride that sticks out, rolls smooth, exudes luxury, and the new Cadillacs just don’t do that for me. And music…I don’t know what’s popular these days, cause everytime I turn the radio on I end up turning it off, just not feelin’ any of the shit I’m hearing. That’s why I use Spotify. Then I know I’m gonna like what I’m listening to ’cause I picked it out. Also, it does have a radio feature and “hot” playlists so that I can discover the rare new song that I end up diggin’. Generally, though, our taste simply lies in the past; we listen to Tupac and Pearl Jam, Do or Die and Jagged Edge.
What I’m screaming is: I’m not working a 9-5 job that I got using my college degree. I’m not working with a combined income of $100,000 or more. I don’t even own a computer right now! But I maintain a household of four(almost five!), I keep my house clean, we own a very nice vehicle and make payments on another, we keep the bills paid and food on the table. My kids are very social and smart, and VERY happy.
We want the same things for ourselves and our children as most parents do. We want a happy household, our children to grow into well rounded individuals who pursue their passions. We want to take family vacations and establish a decent nest egg to retire with. So this blog is being created to promote unity among parents, regardless of where we come from or what we’re into; to create awareness of the moms that don’t necessarily work a 9-5 and maybe give our kids potted meat sandwiches and Kool-Aid sometimes, and why that’s okay; and to throw out preconceived notions that people may have about us parents that be bumpin’ rap in our old school Lincoln Town Car or don’t dress “appropriately,” or who don’t send our kids to bed at 7:30. This blog is meant to be refreshing. A real look at real moms/parents who don’t fit the mold that society created for “good” or “ideal” parenting. We like to break statistics and give new perspective on age-old beliefs. So that’s my direction.
Now that I’ve given you a “feel” of my lifestyle and preferences, here’s the reason why I started this blog NOW. My baby is due in just a little over three weeks, Monday, May 16th. This is my third baby, but I can tell you that the weird mixture of emotions during the weeks leading up to birth does NOT change with each sequential pregnancy. Yes, now I know that no matter what happens, I will most likely end up with a happy, healthy baby, my body will recover, and we will adjust into a new routine that works perfectly for us. But, man! I’m still overcome with a myriad emotions from worry to excitement to stress to eagerness. A woman cannot explain the emotional roller coaster of that last month before the baby comes.I’ve wanted to start this blog for a long time, and I put it off for a while, but I had a realization that this may be a good way of keeping my head clear during these last few weeks, along with being a form of encouragement and community with other moms that are expecting. I mean, the perfect reason for creating a blog. I have three weeks left until I’m due to have this baby, and I’m so full of emotion. I figured most pregnant women could relate to what I’m feeling. So instead of starting a blog once the baby is born and things have settled down, I realized I should start it up NOW, while my feelings are raw and real and totally relatable. And that’s probably why you’re here, so I’m going to keep it raw and real and relatable. So, I’m getting started now, and imma keep it coming.
My goal is for my site to be a platform in which I can shed some light on what life is like for parents who are different from those that most blogs are directed towards. There are a lot of blogs that say they want to welcome parents from all walks of life, and show “grace” to moms “just where they are.” I guess they’re talking about those who don’t “have it all together.” But I have yet to read a blog that was written by a mom who doesn’t pretty much have it all together. I am NOT saying they’re not out there and being utilized. But I haven’t seen any. (If you got one, holla at me, cause I’d love to check it out!) So I made my own. Guys, when I say I don’t have it all together, I mean I’m writing this post on my smartphone. I don’t have a computer, I don’t even have an internet connection. I’m relying on a prepaid Verizon Wireless plan with a certain amount of data. I’m not even paying for a host for my domain! I’m on the free WordPress.com. I’m just a girl with a passion, and that’s why this shit that I’m bringing to you is so real. I do plan on investing in a laptop/tablet, get internet hooked up here at the house, purchase a plan through Bluehost to host my domain. And what’s so cool about all of this is that you can watch this little-ass blog evolve; you can join me on my journey. I want to provide awareness to my readers that basically all parents’ goals are the same, just the process is a little different. And imma so transparently show you my personal process. I’m SO thankful for all the awesome blogging mommies out there that provide such great information, resources, etc. and I’ve utilized so many of these. I just want to introduce a cultural and lifestyle variety, so that’s what I’m serving up.
And so, without further ado, imma publish my first blog post!